Audrey Schroeder married Thomas Haggerty in 1947 and they had two beautiful daughters. From them, there are four grandchildren and nine great grandchildren. Many of us in this room can trace our roots back to Grandma Audrey.
My guess is, it was a tremendous shock when her husband died in 1976. This was such a difficult time for her and yet she moved to Florida, obtained a new job and began another chapter of her life.
It was during this new chapter that she met Bela Toth. She spent many fun years with Bela. They swam, walked, biked, danced and flew together. Gram's social calendar often put mine to shame. She suffered another great loss with the death of Bela in 2004. She once again had to rely on faith, family and herself.
In the last years of her life, my Grandma often said, "Don't ever get old". I thought about this for quite some time watching her struggle with some impairments from which she would never fully recover.
I have decided that this was one piece of advice that I was going to try to ignore.
You see...
If she hadn't gotten old, I would not have seen such a great example of finding new interests and developing new skills.
If she hadn't gotten old, I probably would not have realized the power of prayer or the way that God can intervene in your life and change your outlook, the way He so obviously did for her.
If she hadn't gotten old, she would not have been around to talk to us and encourage our families.
I think all of these qualities were present in Gram for years, but if she hadn't gotten old, I would not have had time to mature enough to see them for what they really were.
And so, I chose to disobey my Gram...just this once.
I would like to share a poem that was read at the Queen Mother's funeral at her request:
You can shed tears that she is gone or you can smile because she has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back or you can open your
eyes and see all she’s left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see
her or you can be full of the love you shared.
You can turn your back on
tomorrow and live yesterday or you can be happy for tomorrow because of
yesterday.
You can remember her and only that she’s gone or you can cherish
her memory and let it live on. You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn
your back or you can do what she’d want:
smile,
open your eyes,
love
and go on.
So today as we remember my grandmother, Audrey Haggerty, we can focus on love, faith and family. Gram would be so happy to have us all together in one room.
We are her legacy.
God Bless!